Divorce can be a very emotional and unstable period of time for both parties involved. As people move through the bargaining process of the divorce settlement, they tend to worry that they will be taken advantage of or lose out on what should be theirs. Add the element of anger or a cheating partner and you have some partners that will attempt to not only get what they want, but to ensure that their partners get as little as possible. Out of anger and fear, people can behave very cruelly.
Truth be told, a divorce stirs up negative feelings and/or lack of confidence both parties carry within themselves. Along with adjusting to the changes, we worry about what our friends, relatives, acquaintances, and even our own children, will think of us. We worry that we will not get what we want and that our partner will walk away with more than they really deserve. As the negotiations continue, we become angrier or more hurt as our partner often disregards the value and contributions we made throughout the years in the relationship. Funny enough, our partner might feel the same way.
Yes, with divorce, we have to face looking at things such as how much each party contributed, who should pay what, and who is entitled to what. But, if we really looked at divorce under the Law of Attraction, each person in truth will walk away with only what they feel worthy of. This is what is really happening.
What each person feels worthy of is not a matter of what they state they want. It comes from the level of confidence they each have about themselves. It is determined by what each one believes they deserve, not what they wish or hope they can get. In other words, each person is, by their own thoughts and feelings, attracting or drawing the end results of the divorce to them.
If one person, knowingly or unknowingly, uses the Law of Attraction in such a way that he or she believes money comes easily and effortlessly, chances are the money will come to them even if the other partner feels they are lazy, they do not “deserve” it, or it is unfair. If one person has always felt that he or she was never valued in the relationship and still “feels” victim to their partner, they will probably settle and allow themselves to receive less than they deserve.
You might argue that what a person ends up with is a matter of which lawyer represents each partner or who has the most money. However, even the lawyers are attracted by the thoughts and/or beliefs each partner holds. And as far as who has the most money? Think about it: A person with money is not more powerful than the Law of Attraction. Money cannot change the way the Law works anymore than money can change the Law of Gravity. We have to get to a place where we understand that there is a Higher Power at work in all things — including divorce. In Truth, there are no victims — we are each creating our own realities.
In understanding how the Law works regarding divorce, you must keep in mind that feeling or becoming angry only keeps you in the victim mode. Anger is a form of fear and fear shows that one does not trust they will get their fair share. Instead, moving through the process with faith that all is well and holding on to your belief that you will get what you deserve will help you attract what you desire. This is not a stubborn kind of “deservedness”. Stubbornness is just another form of fear. Remember, you are attracting what you get from the divorce by virtue of the beliefs you hold about yourself.
To the best of your ability, take your attention off of your partner, his or her manipulations and tricks, and place it back on what you want. Get support, if needed, to help you work on remembering your worth and value, and to help you stay focused and positive throughout the process. Not only is this the most beneficial way to move through a divorce, it provides you the opportunity to attract your desired outcome. Furthermore, it can help you avoid taking loads of baggage into your next relationship, and assist you in allowing your highest and greatest good into your life. And know this: Divorce does not determine your value. Your value is determined by God, Source or a power greater than you, and you are worthy of all good things.








