Photograph taken by Ruth Burton

If you’ve started dating, you probably have an idea what kind of partner you want. This is especially true if you ever broke up or divorced someone. Through previous experiences, your exes have helped you realize some of the things you do and do not want in a partner. However, if you have been dating only to find out your ideal partner hasn’t shown up, having a better understanding of the dating process through the Law of Attraction can help.

As you begin dating, you have the kind of partner you want in your mind. However, you might find that you don’t necessarily see eye to eye and/or even have the same things in common with your dates. Some may even have issues you don’t want any part of.

After a while, you may begin to wonder if there is anyone out there that doesn’t have some kind of an issue or another. In other words, you feel like there always seems to be something wrong with them.

But understand this; all of the people showing up in your life are being drawn to you by you. You are one attracting them. With the Law of Attraction, nobody shows up who isn’t somewhere within the realm of your current vibration. In order to draw people with the qualities you desire, you must focus on what you want. So, instead of looking at what’s wrong with them, use these experiences as opportunities to keep redefining your ideal partner.

Think of it like this. When you’re in the market for a new car, you decide which car you want. Then, at the dealership, the salesperson begins throwing numerous options and packages at you for your consideration. This causes you to have to think about and decide in greater detail what you really want. So many choices, but because you have your own preferences, you get to decide.

Well, the same is true with dating. You imagine meeting and falling in love with a particular type of person. But, once you begin dating, you quickly realize that each person has their own personality, likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, beliefs, etc. and you get to decide what you do and do not want. Rather than becoming frustrated over people who lack the qualities you had hoped for, pay attention to your preferences. Understand that each date provides you experience and, therefore, opportunity to more clearly define what you want and ultimately draw your ideal relationship to you. However, be careful not to narrow your desires down too much. Doing so could cause you to feel that the person you desire isn’t out there.

As you become clearer about what you want, simply stay focused on drawing this ideal person to you. Have fun with it. Look around you and notice the qualities you like in different people. Be grateful for the people who you date because by learning what you want, it will bring you closer to your ideal mate. Through the Law of Attraction, as you focus on what you want, you will start attracting people with some or most of these characteristics. As you do, be sure to take the time to acknowledge your progress throughout the process. This keeps your energy moving in a positive direction.

Each new experience you have provides you with the opportunity to fine tune what you really want. The clearer you define what you want, the closer you are to attracting your ideal partner. Stay open, stay optimistic, and be easy about the process. Remember, love is supposed to be fun!